My sister teaches high-schoolers in the Bronx---
She was telling me the other day
that she had to teach the students what a mountain was
"What a mountain is?"
"Yeah, they've spent their entire lives in the city
so most have never seen a mountain"
I couldn't comprehend this
How could you live a life,
and not know what a mountain is?
When I think of running away from it all
from my job, from my friends, from the guys on the TV
You know, giving up, and just throwing a tantrum that
would last several years,
I like to think I'd go to where the mountains are
You know, someplace where there aren't any people
just the infinite beauty of nature,
so that I can find peace.
But my sister, she has this class.
It's called "Boys to Men"
Not the music group, the other type:
The type that consists of 31 boys
with a history of behavioral problems,
with a security guard standing in her classroom
at all times,
while the students, most of them,
are there with the singular goal
(not even their goal) of
just getting through high school.
And my sister tells me
the class time consists of
about 60% learning
and about 40% behavior problems
A lot of kids do not understand
what the point is of learning,
especially earth science…
When she tells me that they don't have any rivers
they don't have any cool rocks,
they have sidewalks, and roads, and
Urban troubles. Not Keith Urban.
and I sort of understand.
But only sort of.
My sister has been in a relationship with this guy for the past
two years, I think, not sure how long it has been exactly,
Last time I was at home, he was mistakenly called
"The Afro"
But my sister's boyfriend is American.
His parents are from the Dominican Republic.
And they are also American.
I can understand why they want her to be something more
She's the President of her College class
And, of all the people I know,
She is one of the best with people.
My sister could be a networking phenom,
I can imagine her sitting at a desk with a dozen phones
talking to hundreds of people in a day
establishing rapport, cashing in checks,
steadily climbing up the social ladder,
Because, as I said, she's naturally good with people,
she naturally good at making people smile,
she's naturally good at making people trust her,
she's naturally good at making people feel loved.
and, yeah, she'd be naturally good at making money.
But now, her reality, is she's living in an apartment,
with over a half a dozen people,
with only one of them, her boyfriend,
who can actually speak English
living out of a living space,
that is the size of a closet…
saying, when I get a place,
when I get my own place,
you can come visit,
saying this for the past four months.
You would like to think that she should be honored
but the reality is that the world I come from,
the world I observe, doesn't respect that.
When I go shopping at the grocery store
I see people purchasing those other women
The ones that grace the covers of magazines
who go to the spas, who have their hair done
who get manicures, who have their makeup done
who are married to rich men, and who have designer clothing
and when I'm around women, this is what they often talk about
…Loonies in the skies with diamonds…
Whereas my sister,
my sister,
my sister who is beautiful.
absolutely, stunningly, beautiful.
well, she has three dollars in her bank account.
And I understand where my parents are coming from.
She tells me
that the first day they told her to decorate her classroom
and that the second day they told her to move to another room
that she is having difficulty in only the first few weeks
overcoming daunting feelings of apathy.
that egest from some of the people who have worked there
for so long,
and just don't see a whole lot of hope for a child in the Bronx,
Because just as many of us former college students ask:
"What did I actually learn in college
that I'm applying to my current job?"
So, too, those teachers must ask:
"how will scientific notation
ever apply to whatever job this ordinary kid will have?"
And maybe they're right… maybe only the kids at the top of
the honors classes in the Bronx,
ever really have a chance,
so what is the point?
And, hell, it must be one of the hardest jobs there is,
They should know better than I or my sister,
though I've seen the contagion of apathy,
I've felt the contagion of despair.
And it's worth nothing.
I tutor on Saturday mornings
The first child I tutored,
He couldn't read.
He was in the third grade
And he couldn't read "Cat in the Hat"
He would open up a book,
Always a chapter book suitable to his age,
And would pretend he was reading
Tell me a story completely different than the words within…
I was taught to teach phonics…
And he would repeatedly chide me…
"Ca?? Ca?? Ha?? Ha?? They're not even words!"
"Why are you teaching me things that aren't even words!"
"That's baby stuff!"
And this kid, he's smart. Trust me. Really smart.
Destroyed me in the game "Memory" every time
But he would hide under the desk and grip his head
And just shut down sometimes
He hated being called stupid.
Some of the other kids called him stupid.
But he didn't see the point of learning fake words like "Ca"
I'm not sure he had a mother,
His father definitely didn't know how to read,
And one of my greatest failures was that I couldn't teach him how to read.
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I have been writing this poem for a little while
I love my lil' sister as much as I love anyone in the world,
And was hoping to write a decent poem for her,
Because 1) she's my baby sister
And 2) she's one of my personal heroes
Today, I got an email from her…
That last night, September 19, 2008,
Four youths were shot at her high school dance.
Now this brings stuff home.
I had a rough high school like a lot of young guys
And in a future poem I'm going to write all about it,
But this…
This…
This is just horrifying.
How can you think of learning?
When you're afraid of being shot at your own high school dance?
And if this is what's happening in the schools, what the hell is happening at home?
Fuck earth science. Fuck learning.
For the last 10 minutes I have not been able to stop crying
To stop pulling my hair
To stop dry screaming
To stop punching my bed comforter
And I live in northwest Washington, DC,
In the safety of my privileged life
With the only connection being my sister,
Who teaches there,
Who thank God, is safe.
But what would I be doing right now if I were a student?
A student at that school in the Bronx?
A student who had to escape the auditorium because he saw a guy start shooting…
A student who was shot at.
A 14-year old girl who was shot.
What would I be doing right now?
What would I be thinking in that earth science class?
In that Boys to Men class?
What would I be thinking?
And yes, it's emotions like the ones I'm feeling now that make me want to run to the mountains. And I'm probably rich enough to do it for a little while. Fuck me.
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There is a person I love in the Bronx
There is a person I love sooooooooooooooooooooooooo much in the Bronx
Who is
with kids, doing her best to teach them
if not to become men,
at the very least the skills that will help them when they become men
living a life contrary to my parents' desires
contrary to the values that my society conspires
but true to her nature, her love, her life,
which is to be that natural social-light,
To me she's always an inner light…
One of the most courageous people I know
One who can reach any person,
And make that person (young or old) feel at home.
There is a person in the Bronx,
who I call the lil' uno,
who, unlike me,
has committed herself to the cause
of actually running towards mountains,
because what I have learned from my baby sister,
one of the true heroes in my life,
a person who with great personal sacrifice
is doing her best with kids who need a smart,
passionate, dedicated and loving, person like herself
To teach them about things like mountains…
What I have learned from my lil' hero..
Is that teaching a person what a mountain is,
Is the greatest, hardest, sometimes most painful,
but probably the most important,
Mountain to climb.
I love you, lil' uno. And if this poem didn't make it clear:
I'm really proud of you.